{"id":869,"date":"2024-08-24T17:17:23","date_gmt":"2024-08-24T16:17:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/poelitica.com\/?p=869"},"modified":"2024-08-24T17:45:34","modified_gmt":"2024-08-24T16:45:34","slug":"from-matrimonial-apps-to-emotional-gaps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/poelitica.com\/index.php\/2024\/08\/24\/from-matrimonial-apps-to-emotional-gaps\/","title":{"rendered":"From Matrimonial Apps to Emotional Gaps"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t<div id=\"text-3072817224\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<p>It is a disastrous moment when someone\u2019s parents ask for consent to find a groom. It might sound<br \/>slightly absurd, but for some, it is a depressing phase where they feel they are being tested on being human and a perfect human. If someone today tells me that it\u2019s a bittersweet experience, then I would definitely disagree. The whole concept of finding someone suitable and trusting them for their entire life is a \u2018live mirage\u2019 that would let someone interrogate about their existence. The day I hit 28, a wave of discomfort swept on. Everybody was looking at my mature skin and putting an emphasis on the usual cause that everyone else is put into, <em><strong>A Marriage.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><br \/>Am I not good enough? \u00a0This question pricks my heart when I agreed to my generous parents for<br \/>marriage. We have seen various applications available on our devices. Some for dating, some for<br \/>travelling, some for music and recreation so on and so forth and then the technology intervenes and voila! we have applications where in just one swipe the groom is matched. So, the journey begins where one swipe, two swipes, three swipes and now the number 25 continues.<\/p>\n<p>It all starts with <em><strong>\u201cHey, what\u2019s up, how are you?\u201d<\/strong><\/em> and ends with <em><strong>\u201cYou\u2019re a good girl but I\u2019m not getting that vibe with you!\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\t\t\n<style>\n#text-3072817224 {\n  font-size: 1.188rem;\n  line-height: 2.4;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"text-2541308984\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><strong>\u201cSwipe Right for<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><strong>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Disappointment\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\n<style>\n#text-2541308984 {\n  font-size: 1.6rem;\n  color: rgb(255,255,255);\n}\n#text-2541308984 > * {\n  color: rgb(255,255,255);\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"text-193453207\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<div>Well, to be honest, I find this question asking someone unknown about how they are somewhat<\/div>\n<div>bizarre. I mean, there is no bond with the new entity and in my opinion, no relevance of this<\/div>\n<div>so-called question. I understand that it\u2019s merely a first step to begin a conversation<\/div>\n<div>but why would I tell someone unknown if anything bad is happening in my life? Sorry!<\/div>\n<div>I don\u2019t get it. Duhhhh\u2026 Our parents raised men, but they stuck to being boys only.<\/div>\n<div>Disclaimer: Please don&#8217;t be offended by this statement; it&#8217;s scientifically proven\u2014though not by me, of course. After asking how are you, the chain of events takes place do you know how to make rotis or are you able to handle my house when I am outside?<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>Strange right? <em><strong>It feels like giving identity proof to someone and demonstrating that I <\/strong><strong>am ideally a woman<\/strong><\/em>. Making rotis or handling the household is not a big deal for me but rather a cakewalk that I am proficient in. But where is the need to ask this type of degrading question in this modern era at the very first instance? You won\u2019t believe me as life takes through peaks and valleys and develops one as a true human in a similar pattern <em><strong>I experienced from the number 1 to 25 the <\/strong><strong>development and succession of questions<\/strong><\/em>. With the newbies, till 10-it was cooking, some household stuff related queries and after that there was little more intellectual conversation about my career finally after 20 there were men who matched a certain criterion of literacy that \u2018you could do whatever you want but you have to stay with me\u2019. Staying isn\u2019t the problem, please don\u2019t misunderstand me but why don\u2019t you stay with me where I will be pursuing my studies or work.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n\t\t\n<style>\n#text-193453207 {\n  font-size: 1.188rem;\n  line-height: 2.4;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div class=\"box has-hover   has-hover box-text-bottom\" >\n\n\t\t<div class=\"box-image\" style=\"border-radius:8%;width:52%;\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"\" >\n\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1920\" src=\"https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291.jpg\" class=\"attachment- size-\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/poelitica.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image_123650291-1536x1536.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t<div class=\"box-text text-center\" >\n\t\t\t<div class=\"box-text-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\n\t<div id=\"text-3160503521\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Amidst all these scrambling emotions while encountering varied personalities it became a torturous event for me day by day. It resulted in a moment where I would question myself about being a capable woman or if I was demanding too much from someone. Or perhaps I\u2019m living in a fictional town where I am the heroine, a simple girl asking for some affection but the hero is an extraordinary prodigy. Sometimes, it led to teary eyes and wet pillows that I changed every day almost! When I was oscillating between men of different demeanours, some people used to have a conversation leisurely with me not on the topic of marriage or life but of dating and mostly about sex. Where one question became most prevalent <em><strong>\u201cHow many times <\/strong><strong>would you like to get intimate with me after marriage?<\/strong>\u201d<\/em> It was a kind of shock when I heard it for the first time but later the trajectory of affirmation displayed to me that \u201cscientifically proven immaturity of men\u201d.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><br \/>I am an \u2018erotica writer\u2019 by passion. It sounds a little strange for some and unknown to many. Being a sapiosexual, I get attracted to the intellect of the person rather than the outer appearance so whenever a little comfort was provided, the second thing I would tell the selected groom is about my career and my &#8220;not so clich\u00e9d&#8221; writing domain. As usual, it becomes a moment of wonder where is it coming from. <em><strong>However, the usual capacity of the person could only think of just having sex <\/strong><strong>with me and nothing beyond that.<\/strong><\/em> Well, there is more in me that could get more attention rather.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><br \/>I do understand it\u2019s the first thought that would come across someone\u2019s mind but let\u2019s just expect a little maturity in this progressive time and think beyond the sexuality of a woman and as a person in real. In those dating apps or marriage apps where my profile was registered, I saw the backlash of multiple emotions. They indicated that they wanted to know me better and hence wanted a certain amount of time. Well in my opinion knowing someone would take a whole life rather than 3-4 months. Ideally, getting acquainted with someone and understanding them well enough to be a part of their life are two different aspects. According to them, if everything goes well, then the obvious program is to segue into another step.<br \/>Can we call it dating instead of seeing someone, guys!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n\t\t\n<style>\n#text-3160503521 {\n  font-size: 1.188rem;\n  line-height: 2.4;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"text-421150020\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<blockquote>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><em>\u201cNow even arranged marriages<\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><em>are arranged\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\n<style>\n#text-421150020 {\n  font-size: 1.4rem;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"text-962530247\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n\n<p>Many of you after reading this article might judge me for expressing the dark reality an ambitious<br \/>woman goes through. My idea of writing this is not to demean the men of our society but to pang on the immature and playful attitude of boys. However, there is a lack of clarity or a <em><strong>\u2018tendency to take <\/strong><strong>things for granted\u2019<\/strong> <\/em>behaviour which is nothing but simply the byproduct of the patriarchal society.<\/p>\n<p>There is no importance to those who genuinely look for someone to complete them. This society is<br \/>full of minds who think alike in a certain pattern of passivity where the other person who is more<br \/>invested in a relationship gets hurt and later mentally unstable. Consider a situation when one<br \/>person is completely involved with the other and the other one is just not serious and merely<br \/>enjoying the supremacy of oblivion. Isn\u2019t it too harsh for someone whose life revolves around their<br \/>beloved and also thinking of getting married to them?<\/p>\n<p>It was my personal experience. You\u2019ll have yours too. So, if you were caught in the same situation, what would your next step be? 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